Gay marriage is now law and a right around here

Pam Grey, left, and Zoe Dunning kiss, reacting to the U.S. Supreme Court's ruling on gay marriage in California, at San Francisco's City Hall.  Dunning, who wed Grey, a federal employee, in 2008, will now be entitled to federal benefits.  (AP / Noah Berger)
Pam Grey, left, and Zoe Dunning kiss, reacting to the U.S. Supreme Court’s ruling on gay marriage in California, at San Francisco’s City Hall. Dunning, who wed Grey, a federal employee, in 2008, will now be entitled to federal benefits.
(AP / Noah Berger)

Heard from a number of friends Monday who obtained their marriage licenses Monday or will do so on Tuesday.

Then they legally can marry as couples of the same sex in the Commonwealth of Virginia.

Also heard from a fundamentalist minister who, for reasons known only to God, includes me on his mailing list for self-righteous and homophobic rants about the “disintegration of marriage and society” because the U.S. Supreme Court sidetracked the issue by allowing five cases where lower courts to declare bans of gay marriage as unconstitutional.

The court’s decision to even consider ruling on the lower court decisions removed a stay on the decisions of the lower courts and friends of ours went to the clerk’s office in Arlington County, Virginia, Monday afternoon and received a license.

Virginia is one of five states where gay marriage is now legal and will soon bring the list of states and jurisdictions to 30, along with the District of Columbia — bringing the approval rate to 60 percent.

Court cases in the other 20 are in place to complete the process.

This, of course, has the rabid right throwing fits and promising to find a way — any way — to stop a practice that should, in the end, be decided by love and neither politics or fundamentalist religious finagling.

Social networks are already littered by exclamations of “defying God’s will” and “government sanctioned sin.”  Such claims, of course, point to Biblical quotes to provide cover for deeper psychological bias while they routinely ignore other quotes that don’t pass muster with one or another per-conceived notion.

Most religions are based on rampant hypocrisy, widespread contradictions and self-righteous beliefs proclaimed by pre-conceived notions driven by commercial decisions.

Some embrace differences of opinion and re-examination of historical bias but the fundamentalists promise to fight any change or acceptance to their last dying breath.

That, of course, is their choice in a free society as long as they don’t try to dictate their own bias on others.  Some, however, will urge their congregations to ignore the law of the land and resist what is now legal in Virginia and most of America today.

Claims that breaking the law is “God’s will” is, from this American’s view, a smokescreen.

I’ve sworn an oath to my government and my country more than once to various government entities that I have served over the years.

Those oaths swore me to support the Constitution of the United States of America and the laws that govern the United States.

The law of the land Monday declared condemnation and bias against gays who wish to marry as unconstitutional. That declaration is now the law of the land in Virginia, many other states and the District of Columbia, where our nation’s Capitol stands.  It is expected to be the law of the land in more than 60 percent of the states shortly.

I support the law of the land.  I also support this law because it is right.

Michael Knaapen, left, and his husband John Becker, right, embrace outside the Supreme Court in Washington after the court cleared the way for same-sex marriage in California by holding that defenders of California’s gay marriage ban did not have the right to appeal lower court rulings striking down the ban
(AP / Charles Dharapak)


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3 Responses

  1. Marriage has traditionally been a religious ceremony. When the courts get involved it is a civil action. All these arguments could be resolved by reserving the word marriage for unions consecrated by a religion and using the word civil ceremony for the legal action. It could then be said that marriage carries no legal claims but civil ceremonies do. Those people who want civil rights can have a simple civil ceremony performed and those who want recognition in the eyes of their church can have a religious ceremony. Many people would do both. I was married in a court house, not a church, and have no problem with the idea that I have a civil union. I would still refer to my wife as my spouse.

  2. Facebook lit up last night, talk of “immorality” and going “against God.” Of course it’s common knowledge that Jesus was, most likely, gay. Never seen alone with a woman and forever in the company of his “disciples.” Tied to his mother’s apron strings and, because he was omniscient, already a fan of Judy Garland. And what’s with the robe, already? Either way, seems like he’d definitely support this important, inclusive step taken by the Supreme Court.

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